Seated and surrounded by family in a restaurant, the child sat engrossed and fixated with agile fingers roaming the keyboard at lightning speed. This occurred for a large portion of time spent at the meal with the only exception occurring while the child was eating and even then, still working the phone’s screen. During that time, little or no conversation was emitted.
The above scenario is demonstrated every day throughout our nation. The screen is not a problem, but the amount of time that is used on it is the major concern. The time many children and young adults spend on it robs them of opportunities to learn and enhance their skills in communication. To learn and understand facial expressions, body language, and vocal inflections, is paramount in human communication.
The first teacher of these communication skills rests solely on the shoulders of parents. As parents, we are entrusted to guide, mentor, and establish boundaries for appropriate behavior. Additionally, as adults, we must also model appropriate actions and behaviors as these are constantly observed and evaluated by our children.
Along these lines, the following are a few suggestions to explore if you wish to take action on your child’s use of screen time:
1. Example – Model the reduction of your own exposure to technology as this will send a subtle message to your child.
2. Limitations – Establish firm limitations of children’s use of technology. For example: Cell phones must be placed in a container at certain times, such as meals, etc.
3. Monitor – Control the amount of screen time by monitoring where and when they are on the screen.
4. Collaborate – Converse with the parents of your children’s friends. Sometimes children (including teens) are less resistant to restrictions if they know their friends have the same or similar restrictions.
5. Dialogue – Create an open conversation and honest communication with your child about their usage of technology and its dangers.
6. Consistent – Be very consistent about the follow-through and enforcement of the boundaries of technology usage.
7. Technology Off Nights – Have one or two nights per week where the family has a fun night. During this time, games, outside activities, and working on arts and crafts are some possible suggestions. Another option would be to have an open discussion on faith and values.
The screen is here, and how we as parents deal with our children’s exposure to it is vital. Hopefully, these suggestions may help.
